This Month’s Spotlight Mama is Kiely! All of you Moms are so amazing I would love to spotlight every one of you! You do not realize the good you are doing often by working behind the scenes day in and day out, keeping things together for your family and helping those around you.
Perhaps some of you can relate to Kiely?! She balances working full-time with raising her young family. She is a mother of 4 and has been married for 5 years. And yet, Kiely’s story is also unique just like all of us have our unique blend of life events that have brought us to where we are.
To begin, Kiely has an associates degree in photography from a University in Idaho. She worked several years at a photography studio in Utah but decided this wasn’t the right field for her. She then went back to school for X-ray training and later trained on the job for her position now to work with CAT scans. She now works helping patients get cat scans for all sort of needs whether it be head injuries or problems in the abdomen, pelvis, facial regions.
Although she claims to mainly have grown up in Washington State, same as our last Mom of the Month(!), she moved around a lot as a kid due to her fathers job. Kiely met her spouse only a little over 6 years ago when she was 27. At the time when she met him, her spouse Rafaal had two kids from a previous marriage and was raising them partly on his own- sharing responsibilities every other week with his ex-wife. I asked Kiely if it was a little hard marrying someone who had already been married before when she has never been married herself. I was a little hesitant in asking this as maybe I was stepping out of line to ask but she surprised me with such a noble answer as to say that she “knows that all families have issues, hers would just be known to her from the beginning.” I love that. How right she is. What a sweet and strong person she is to see past that, to the reality of what a wonderful guy she has met who is such a sweet father and supporter of his family.
Kiely has arranged her schedule so that she works night shifts so that she can be with her kids most of the time. On those three nights of the week, each a 13 hour shift(!), she is pretty much out of commission because she has to sleep during the time she is home. Her husband takes care of the kids during this time when he gets back from work while the younger ones spend a couple hours in daycare on Mondays. She said one of the perks of him having been married before and single for sometime after being married is that he is pretty good at pulling his share with doing laundry and dishes. How cool is that.
Kiely is thankful that she loves her job and that she can work it out like this. It has taken a few years to get to this point. Although I can imagine it is probably difficult sometimes, especially if she is not able to sleep very well, she is very positive and such a good example to us all who have work in different forms. I also noticed what a clear-sighted view she has of keeping priorities in mind and being patient in balancing her responsibilities. She mentioned that at work she sees a lot who have made poor decisions due to getting drunk since it is in the late hours of the night. It is a good reminder to her how fragile life really is and to focus her energies on things that are of most worth. I love this. What a beautiful reminder this is to us all.
At the end I asked if she would give us all some tips to manage our households better-she seems to be doing an amazing job balancing it all and keeping things in line. With this she laughed and said, “Really, is that how people view me? Because although I try, I don’t exactly feel like this myself.” 🙂 I love this response because that is how every one of us thinks sometimes and yet we really do have so much to offer. After giving it some thought she said she “tries to figure out what is most important and do those things. Then I let the other things go and try not to feel guilty that I am not the ‘perfect mom’ like so many it seems around me! I try to choose one project or bigger task a week to accomplish like organizing my kids closet etc and be happy if I get that done. The day to day stuff I just try to stick to a loose routine. Like having the laundry done and put away by Friday… “
Thank you Kiely, you are more of a Role Model “Perfect” Mom than you know. Thank you for your example and strong character in working toward what you feel is right. You are amazing!!! So bright, talented, and service-oriented!! Thank you!!!
P.S. An additional tid bit here is that Kiely loves dancing. For many years, she would be country, swing, or latin dancing three nights a week! So fun!!!
Here is Kiely’s Disclaimer, “I really dislike meal planning. It is just so hard for me to take the time writing it out each week. Rafaal has learned not to ask ‘about dinner’. Ha ha. I am a chips and salsa kind of gal or anything pre-made. I would like to get better at this, I really would. ” 🙂