Meet Mom of the Month Aubrey!
Aubrey grew up in Fort Worth Texas as the 4th of 6 kids. She grew up loving sports and holding her own among her 4 brothers. She met her future spouse through a letter as a friend of her brothers while attending Southern Virginia University on a Soccer & Basketball Scholarship. He was on a mission for his church serving in the country of Argentina. Her brother was serving there as well and thought it would be fun for him to write Aubrey on a whim that maybe they would end up getting together someday. Aubrey and Greg wrote back and forth with mostly small talk and get to know you questions but eventually lost touch. Then a year and a half later they ended up meeting, as both had through different circumstances of their own, wound up transferring to Brigham Young University in Utah. How it turned out was one day Aubrey’s roommate had gone on a blind date and the next morning Aubrey asked her how it went. Her roommate began to tell her all about Greg. The more she talked, the more familiar he sounded. In fact, she thought “wait, what is his name?” haha. She was shocked to learn it was the guy she wrote over a year on his mission. They ended up living a block away from each other. He came over to meet her that same day! Although they became instant friends, it wasn’t until meeting up for a board game night a little while later that they finally hit it off when Greg got to see Aubrey’s competitive feisty side brought out while playing the game of Life.
Not too long after, they were engaged and married in the Mesa, Arizona where Greg is from and then returned to Utah to complete their studies. I know both of these two especially well because they are my brother and sister-and-law!!! So, I can also personally vouch for what a wonderful Mom and parents they are.
At present, Aubrey is a Stay-at-Home Mom of four kids of the close ages of 7, 4, 2, and 1. She is not only talented, kind hearted, and service-oriented but an amazing cook and homemaker. Her husband is currently serving active duty as a Captain in the Army & Dentist which means she has to hold the household together while he is away, take care of the kids, and keep up with the day to day urgencies. Despite these odds, she has beautifully decorated her home on a limited budget, often has freshly baked homemade granola, muffins, and cookies for her family each week, consistently makes and plans out healthy homemade meals, keeps atop discipline and chore clipboards for her kids, and has a shelf full of digitally crafted Scrapbooks she has made every year for years of her family and their adventures together.
With all this and more that she does, she was hesitant for me to spotlight her because she said she doesn’t really know what I could say about her. I asked her if she was kidding??? Is this not like so many of us? We are giving our all and serving in so many ways and yet we somehow lose sight of how incredible it all really is. I know because I do it, too. We Stay-at-Home Moms may not be earning our way up the corporate ladder, have a paycheck to affirm the hard work we’ve put in, or whatever it is some deem as most important. But, what we are doing is something amazing. We may not always get a pat on the back from our spouses or children, some Moms may never get this, but we are making MAGIC! That magic translates into care, love, and charity this world desperately needs. Thank you for your example Aubrey, for following the inspiration to be a Mom, and caring for your kids with your own imprint of how you feel it should be done.
When I asked Aubrey what advice she would like to impart to us Moms out there, her thought out advice was this:
1.“ Don’t be so hard on yourself because there are days where things don’t go right and that is okay. Kids get sick. It’s okay.” She says it helps her to do a lot of self talk which means to talk herself through things, even out loud sometimes, and be fair about the situation at present. It helps her also to see the eternal perspective she says. In the scheme of things these couple of months that maybe they have been sick or not sleeping as well will pass and they will get it together again. She says she reminds herself that to everything there is a season. Right now her kids are young and are needier and that is just the season she is in.
2. She also says to remember everyone is different. Some of the Moms she knows and really loves are totally opposite of each other. Some swear by everything organic, some don’t think twice about this stuff, some it is really important to be super trendy looking or have a super cute home, and some could care less about that and have other ways they are amazing. Be okay with what you do. Don’t judge if people aren’t the same as you.
3. Keep it simple. Somedays you may go to bed with a dirty kitchen. Listen to your heart. It is okay to watch TV sometimes or rest. She keeps a schedule and to-do list but it helps her to write these things out in a prioritized manner so that she feels good even if she doesn’t get very far on the list. She knows if she has focused on the priorities than she is successful.
“I would say that when I get tired I tend to get nit- picky at my kids when I should be letting things go. I also have always struggled with comparing myself to other women and other Moms. I have come a long way, but it is still something that I work on. I often get overwhelmed with the things I need to do, should do, and want to do. But once I take a step back, I can prioritize and know that I am doing or working on the best thing for the time. It is a constant struggle :)”
Thank you Aubrey! You are an amazing Mom and person! Thank you for your example and light! We look up to you and love you!!!!!